tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776668452341193996.post524175506444360567..comments2023-06-21T13:25:19.101+02:00Comments on Vicki Ballante - Sugar and Spice: What Makes a Good Sex SceneAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05976725514704271087noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776668452341193996.post-17132816020827795582014-02-28T10:22:54.919+02:002014-02-28T10:22:54.919+02:00That's so true, Tricia! So glad to find a kind...That's so true, Tricia! So glad to find a kindred soul out in ciber space!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05976725514704271087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776668452341193996.post-89652684757397411272014-02-27T21:06:57.002+02:002014-02-27T21:06:57.002+02:00Hi Vickie! I stumbled across your blog because I r...Hi Vickie! I stumbled across your blog because I read your comment on 10 Things I Hate About Sex Scenes. I really liked what you had to say. When a story is pure erotica, there is some leeway. Readers expect to read about sex. It's pure fantasy. But when the story is erotic romance or romance, there needs to be ROMANCE. Like you said, there should be a buildup of sexual tension as the relationship grows. For many women, there needs to be trust before they can enjoy sex. With some of the books that are out there, I'm afraid we're setting young women up for disappointment. When they can't perform the way their heroines can, they are going to feel like failures. When their partner can't perform like the heroes in romance novels, the woman might feel cheated. Couples have to work at all aspects of a relationship, including the sexual aspect. Sometimes people are preoccupied or tired or not in the mood. Sometimes a couple can feel out of sync with each other for weeks or even months. But when there is a true foundation of love, couples reconnect. Like you said in your comment on that other blog post, "Love is much stronger than all of that."<br /><br />I'm glad I discovered your blog!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com